Last Sunday we had the pleasure of hearing from foster parents Zach and Kali Hocking about what it’s like to let go and trust in God’s plan. They shared with us some of the joys and challenges of fostering children. “The hardest part is letting go,” Kali said. “But we’ve found comfort in that fact that we’re releasing these children into the hands of God Almighty and that’s the safest place they could ever be.” The Hocking’s experience shows us that our trust in the Lord is never misplaced.
I was able to speak with Zach and Kali on Sunday to ask them a few questions. Zach told me that a few years ago, he and Kali were in a season of big transition and asking themselves, “What now?” Kali felt God leading her heart towards foster care. As much as she tried to ignore it, this thought would not leave her alone and she finally confronted God about it. Zach said, “As Kali considered the implications of what it meant to be a mother, she needed it to be very clear if this was what we were supposed to pursue.” Kali needed to know if God was truly calling them to be parents. “I knew I wanted to glorify God, but I had no idea how this would play out in our lives.”
When Kali approached Zach with the notion of foster care, he immediately supported the idea and was excited to begin.
Surprisingly, Kali did not feel encouraged. When Zach expressed how much he liked the idea she said, “You were supposed to say no.”
I was confused by her hesitation. Why be wary when God has given you a clear path? Zach reminded me that this process of foster care forces you to let go. For Kali, this meant letting go of her idea of what was necessary to raise children. Zach, was certainly ready to begin, but she brought up very reasonable questions. How would they provide for a child? How would this affect their marriage? Where would the kids go to school?
As we talked more, I could tell that one of their biggest concerns was the size of their home. They weren’t on a farm with a lot of land where kids could run around and simply be kids. They were in a tiny apartment.
But God’s response was clear.
When they spoke to Olive Crest, the foster care organization, they learned that their household size would limit who could be in their home. They could only take in foster children from 0-2 years old. However, this did not end up acting as an obstacle because that was the exact age group Zach and Kali were hoping to provide care for. God used their home not as a restriction, but rather as a parameter so that they could be placed perfectly where God needed them to be.
God took the Hockings fundamental desire to honor Him and used it. As they put their trust in Him, He refined them so that they were a perfect fit for their role as foster parents. Oftentimes we have an idea of what God wants us to do, but we don’t trust Him enough to act on that idea.
As Pastor Darin put it on Sunday morning, “Acts of benevolence are a vehicle for a great declaration in the name of Christ.” Their example of giving full control to God should bind our hearts even closer to our Creator. He is the one that created life. He is the one who controls it. And He will direct it in a way that glorifies Him. It is only as we let go of our desires that God is able to use them. Will we trust Him to use us?
Written by: Robert Heckert